Introduction to Addiction

Introduction to Addiction

I have dealt with addiction to: Alcohol, Drugs, (legal/illegal) Pornography, sexual, Gambling, or Overspending.

On this page you will find 3 short articles about addiction –  please scroll down and read the one(s) that apply to you:

* Why Is Addiction So Hard To Treat?

* To the Person Fighting Their Addiction

* To the Spouse or Parents of the Person Fighting Their Addiction

Why Is Addiction So Hard To Treat?

The problem with addiction is that it works so well for people (at least in the short run), which
makes treatment difficult. Gambling works for the gambler, drinking works for the
alcoholic, drugs work for the drug addict.

Sure we know better, but that truth is not apparent to the addict. Treatment is fighting
an up hill battle against a quick and easy way to deal with anxiety, depression and
isolation. If that weren’t a difficult enough challenge, hereditary and brain chemistry
also kick in, as well as social

To the Person Fighting Their Addiction

A Note to The Person Struggling with The Addiction

Do you really believe that:
*You will loose important people in your life if you don’t beat your addiction

* Unless you do beat your addiction you will face financial ruin?

If your answer is yes to these questions, then you are ready for us to work together.

However, having said that, if you are addicted, you need
more than will power. To “beat your addiction” you
need new strategies and tools. This strategy must
develop a practical plan to combat your addiction. The
plan must include new understandings and new
techniques as needed.

To the Spouse or Parents of the Person Fighting Their Addiction

Most of the referrals I get are triggered by spouses or parents of people who are struggling with their drinking and
addiction problems. The spouse’s and parents of the addicts I have worked with have strong mixed feelings; on
the one side, they are frightened for the addicts’ future and even their life and on the other side, they are
frustrated even angry at them Wives/husbands, girlfriends/boyfriends, or mothers/fathers of the addicts

I have counseled feel desperate and overwhelmed and don’t
know what to do for their loved one. This is unfortunately quite common and you shouldn’t feel that you need to go it alone or
suffer in silence. What is the next step?

The next step is to give me a call: (732)246-8484 and we can discuss the best way to get help.  Together we can things one step at time

Talk to you soon,

Dr.  Marty      

 

Three Stages to Dealing With Addiction

Stage I – Understanding Your Addiction

I will help you, the person who is exploring their addiction, to be able to learn how to question and understand what is going on emotionally. Often times, addictive behavior is a reaction to stress, anxiety, hopelessness or even depression. It can also be a way of escaping difficult situations such as financial problems, a bad relationship, or trouble at work.

Stage II – Treatment of Addiction

Together we will approach the addiction on two levels:

I. Breaking the Habit – One of the problems is that taking drugs, drinking, pornography, gambling etc., is a habit we adapted to get us through our daily lives, and so we need counseling that can teach us practical strategies to help us get past these bad habits.

II. Escaping Depression and or Anxiety – One reason people think they engage in their addiction is to “relax” because they feel over stressed, angry, depressed, anxious or all of the above. In counseling you will learn ways of handling the issues we have discussed in Stage I “Understanding Your Addictions”.

We will do our counseling either individually, as a couple or a combination with both approaches. Together we will determine which will be the most effective in your particular situation.

Stage III – Practice and Re-enforcement

In this stage you will see how well you are able to put into practice insights and strategies’ you have learned from our treatment phase (Stage II).

We will also re-enforce what needs to be done to either catch “slips before they happen” or handle any set backs that may occur and preventing you from going forward.

A Note to the Person Struggling with the Addiction

Do you really believe that:

  • You will loose important people in your life if you don’t beat your addiction?
  • You will face financial ruins unless you beat your addictions?

If your answer is yes to both of these questions, then you are ready for us to work together.

However, having said that, if you are addicted, you need more than will power. To “beat your addiction” you need new strategies and tools, and you also have to develop a practical plan to be able to combat your addiction that would involve additional techniques.

Below are the approaches we can use to recover from addiction:

1)  Hypnosis

2)  EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprogramming)

3)  EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)

4) Energy Psychology

5) TFT (Thought Field Therapy)

6) CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)

7) Traditional Psychotherapy (Long Term & Short Term)

Over the 30 years that I have been in practice I have studied and used all of these approaches.  I have found that different people and situations respond need different approaches.

To learn more about what is involved in treatment go to: “Three Steps to Dealing With Addiction”

 

To the Spouse or Parents of the Person Fighting Their Addiction

Most of the referrals I get are triggered by spouses or parents of people who are struggling with some addiction problems. The spouse’s and parents of the addicts I have worked with have strong and mixed feelings; on the one side, they are frightened for the addicts’ future and even their life and on the other side, they are frustrated and angry at their wives/husbands girlfriends/boyfriends, or mothers/fathers of the addicts. They feel desperate and overwhelmed and don’t know what to do for their loved ones and this puts them in a very difficult place. This is unfortunately, quite common to feel this way and you shouldn’t feel that you need to do it alone or suffer in silence. What is the next step?

The next step is getting treatment.

To learn more about what is involved in treatment go to: “Three Stages to Dealing with Addiction”